I’m hearing this a lot that these days.
I often think about that question. Sometimes I want to ask back, do you really want to know? Some people do. Others are being friendly and are just passing by. I think most fall somewhere in between.
Most of the time the best answer is a polite, “just fine, how are you?”
Lately I tell people, “I made it to today, that seems pretty good so far.”
Rarely, but every now and then, I just tell the truth and say, “terrible, but maybe things will get better.”
It always depends on who’s asking, the look in their eyes, and the tone of their heart.
How are YOU doin’ these days?
Are you wagging more and barking less?
Are you keeping plenty of people to love very near?
Do you let all that bad stuff just run down and never soak in?
Are you keeping your eyes on today, never missing a chance that God puts in your path?
Smiling at every face that comes into sight, stranger or not?
Putting your problems aside and thinking about someone else as often as you can – telling ’em as quickly how much they mean to you?
“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” ― Dale Carnegie (I couldn’t resist)
The holidays are right around the corner. That’s when some people feel really awful. When someone near to you (at work, down the street, in the next pew, at the end of a phone call) needs to hear, “how are ya’ doin’?” And somehow know that you really want to hear the truth.
Your own bad situation is going to fade away when you start to find ways to take care of someone else’s. It works every single time!
Someone needs you right now, but may never ask
So…how about instead of asking that polite question again and again…you just assume that everyone you meet is probably having (or soon will) a hard time about something. How about you find something encouraging to say that’s personal? How about you pray (really!) for people you pass on the road of your life? How about you find a secret way to lift up people you hardly know who may not hear enough good news?
“How should we be able to forget those ancient myths that are at the beginning of all peoples, the myths about dragons that at the last moment turn into princesses; perhaps all the dragons of our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us once beautiful and brave. Perhaps everything terrible is in its deepest being something helpless that wants help from us.
So you must not be frightened if a sadness rises up before you larger than any you have ever seen; if a restiveness, like light and cloudshadows, passes over your hands and over all you do. You must think that something is happening with you, that life has not forgotten you, that it holds you in its hand; it will not let you fall. Why do you want to shut out of your life any uneasiness, any miseries, or any depressions? For after all, you do not know what work these conditions are doing inside you.” ― Rainer Maria Rilke
“Look, if you sold a few sparrows, how much money would you get? A copper coin apiece, perhaps? And yet your Father in heaven knows when those small sparrows fall to the ground. You, beloved, are worth so much more than a whole flock of sparrows. God knows everything about you, even the number of hairs on your head. So do not fear.” – Jesus in Matthew 10:29-31 (The Voice)
God needs you to spread the encouragement, blessings and love of friendship. He needs you to help drive out the fear that haunts so many around you. He needs you to help become part of the answer to “How Ya Doin’?”