On the Road Again

I watched a national tribute to Willie Nelson last night. I think it was a rerun. He ended the event by singing a few songs. The last one was his trademark, “On the Road Again.”  That’s all of our stories – that metaphor works. We are forever on a journey, heading down a road to somewhere.

These days I’m having the hardest time being at the right place at the right time. I’ve got all sorts of calendars, digital “invites” and reminders – but to no avail. I’m still waking up confused at least once or twice a day.

This makes me think about my larger and symbolic journey through life. What kinds of appointments am I missing with my destiny? Did I forget to show up for an important rite of passage? What day of my life is it right now?

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

As I think about it (while going to get some lunch because I messed up my calendar and ended up with a very disordered day) it seems there are markers in my journey through life. We were on the side of the highway recently, asking for help on the phone and were told we needed to keep driving forward until we reached a mile marker. The help was no use until they knew right where we were.

This same truth applies to all of us. Until YOU know where you are on your journey (what day of your life is it right now?) you’re not going to get very far. Spend some time and be reflective. Start a journal. Talk with someone about things that matter. Take a long walk regularly and talk to yourself. Try and locate the “mile markers” in your present journey. Are you heading forward? Are you moving at the speed limit?  Keeping your eyes on the road? You’re going to always feel that sense of confusion or detachment if you continue to let your life drive on autopilot.

Your relationships all along the journey are essential to understanding where you are, where you’re going and who you are becoming. To end some of the confusion that may be plaguing your day in and day out – maybe you need to reconnect with the people the matter? What about listening instead of talking? How about some honest feedback, from someone who loves you, about where you’re heading? (Most people can’t give us this valuable help because we usually remain too private about our real selves, our hoods too tightly shut).

“Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone – we find it with another.” ― Thomas Merton

What sort of goals have you set for yourself? As you pass each mile marker, you can tell that you’re heading the right direction if your actions are taking you toward specific goals already laid out. Most of us aren’t specific enough with our goals and that leaves us driving around in the dark or lost in the woods. We don’t know the next step because we never really nailed it down in the first place. Make a list of your goals and chart out the course your life should be taking. Big and very specific goals help you to see the markers along your way and which direction you’re heading.

I hope next week is better. I’m going to check my calendar twice to be certain. What I really hope to accomplish is pay better attention to my larger journey, take back the wheel from the autopilot more often and become accustomed to map reading.

“All the world’s a stage and most of us are desperately unrehearsed.”

― Seán O’Casey

 

 

It Doesn’t Matter Where You Are

“How far that little candle throws his beams! So shines a good deed in a weary world.” ― William Shakespeare

I’m living in a world where I have so much more control over things. All the technology at my fingertips allows me to find the quickest route, the best deal, and the latest news. Information and knowledge is everywhere. From all over the world and in just a few minutes, I am able to find answers to almost any kind of question. How much easier it has become to stay in touch with people. We can locate long lost friends and relatives with just a few taps on our keyboard. Searching was never so easy. When you stop and think about it for just a minute or two, we have made a wonderful life for ourselves haven’t we?

Then why am I feeling so awful about how things are going? Why is it that too often my day to day seems like an out of control roller coaster ride? When I reflect, how did I end up where I am, not where I was so certain to be heading?

If you are a follower of Christ, there’s always going to be a disconnect in your experience of life. There will be an external situation that you wake up and find all around you every single day. “The weatherman said it was going to be clear and sunny today! Why all the claps of thunder?” Then there will be the internal/eternal reality that you carry around within and use like a gyroscope to keep a sense of balance and orientation.

“The wizard [of Oz] says look inside yourself and find self. God says look inside yourself and find [the Holy Spirit]. The first will get you to Kansas. The latter will get you to heaven. Take your pick.”― Max Lucado

I am so disappointed at days and months, even years, spent praying and stewing about my life’s direction. Then one day I’m spiritually awoken to realize I’ve been hunting around in a bookstore trying to purchase a box of Cheerios. How could I have been so confused for so long?

What’s the big lesson that I’m learning again and again? So much wasted energy being unhappy with circumstances or the actions of others. So much all around me that I will never be able to change. All I can change is myself. Let God manage the rest. After all, the unhappy and unplanned situations I step into are wonderful opportunities to let faith spill out and be seen for what it really is and how it really works.

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”                                                                                                               ― Wayne W. Dyer

It doesn’t matter where you are. God knows where you are. The work of God, the deep purpose of your life can be accomplished where you are. Use that “gyroscope” and get some balance back into your life. You just have today, make it count:

  • Be present in each moment, chaos or calm, and find that truth that you need to live out in front of others. You don’t need to jump into that argument, you need to turn the other cheek.
  • Replace frustration, anger and fear with a happy demonstration of hope. Do this all the time until it becomes your nature and reputation.
  • Turn so that the eternal situation within you can be seen more clearly. Sometimes this means to turn away from what you desire. Sometimes it means to turn toward the need of another. It can mean to not look so closely at the faults of others. At other times it might mean to turn back upon yourself and reflect on your own weak habits before becoming critical of others. Turning can be a very healthy practice.
  • Stop searching for your own benefits like happiness, fulfillment, success, or acceptance. Instead work hard to find ways that provide these same gifts to people who cross your path each day; friends, acquaintances and strangers alike.

The works of God are waiting for you and I every single day, waiting for YES. 

“Why do you want to shut out of your life any uneasiness, any misery, any depression, since after all you don’t know what work these conditions are doing inside you?

Why do you want to persecute yourself with the question of where all this is coming from and where it is going? Since you know, after all, that you are in the midst of transitions and you wished for nothing so much as to change.

If there is anything unhealthy in your reactions, just bear in mind that sickness is the means by which an organism frees itself from what is alien; so one must simply help it to be sick, to have its whole sickness and to break out with it, since that is the way it gets better.”  ― Rainer Maria Rilke

 

Now may the God of peace make you holy in every way, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless until our Lord Jesus Christ comes again. God will make this happen, for he who calls you is faithful.  – 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24